Just not being violent would be enough. One dot point.

In regards to pornography, surely the lion’s share of the harm lies not in the effect on men, but rather the harm the industry does by feeding off unsafe working conditions for women, human trafficking, and videos of abuse posted without, of course, the (underaged) victim’s consent. And subsequently, the flow on effect to all girls and women e.g. an increase in injuries, and not to mention, strangulation deaths now chalked up to rough sex gone wrong. None of which you mentioned.

I’m disappointed this publication seems to be little more than feel-good pap pussyfooting around the real issue, focused primarily on coddling men (how can I help women without for a nanosecond feeling bad about my prior conduct?). It’s weak sauce, it’s laughably egocentric. How did gender equality become all about men’s precious feelings, rather women’s physical welfare? Not good enough.

Perhaps the issue is men are grappling with the realisation that masculinity, just like femininity, is a mirage and no gender has dibs on any positive human quality, whether it be leadership, strength or empathy. Maybe instead of redefiniding masculinity/femininity we can retire these tired concepts once and for all.

Glutting myself on all that life has to offer and writing about it. Art, language, science, humour, and whatever else takes my fancy…

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