What’s the point of pronouns if you have to ask first? If someone mugs you and you make a police report do you state “he or she or possibly they”? Hardly useful for communication. Pronouns are based on biological sex. For a tiny minority, biological sex does not match their self-concept as a man or woman. In fact, some people’s personality is neither masculine nor feminine and people are supposed to care, and validate this through gender-neutral pronouns. Why do others have to play along? Why is external validation required for internal feelings?